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Pricey James,
I’m not very punk rock. Not even a bit. I’m nicely into center age and experiencing my first style of the various small indignities certain to return. I put on smart footwear with gel insoles scientifically designed to alleviate the ache and discomfort of plantar fasciitis. I’ve lengthy and detailed conversations about insurance coverage.
And but, in my coronary heart, I consider that each one is lying. That advantage is unimaginable. That the system crushes us all beneath its relentless wheel. I inform hilarious jokes in regards to the merciless pointlessness of existence and obtain solely clean stares in return. If the world have been to perish in flames, I’m fairly certain it could be not more than it deserved.
So my query to you is easy: Is that this any option to dwell?
Additionally: Are you able to suggest any good bands?
Pricey Reader,
You’re punk rock to the guidelines of your gel-cushioned toes, my pal. Don’t fear about that. I’m sorry that no one’s digging your nihilistic humor. Possibly work in your materials a bit, soften the sides, angle it a contact towards the mainstream? Day-to-day discourse, in my expertise, can take in a outstanding quantity of savage absurdism, gags about doom, and so forth (these items is extremely relatable!)—so long as you don’t come off as aggressive or out of your thoughts. So long as you don’t come off too punk rock.
To your bigger level: How are we to dwell, make our method, proceed on this planet when a lot of mentioned world is clearly an evil farce? (Large pause whereas recommendation columnist slurps his espresso, stares out the window, and considers the query.) The punk rockers weren’t the primary to have this perception, after all: The poets and the prophets have all the time recognized it. Nobody is extra punk rock than the unknown writer of Ecclesiastes. Or John Donne. Or Sylvia Plath. Or the writer(s) of the Psalms, in sure moods.
The trick, I feel, is to make use of this world-withering imaginative and prescient as a stimulant quite than as a philosophical finish level. Don’t let it shut you down; let it wake you up. Use it to sharpen your senses and file your encounters to a eager edge. As in: It’s all bollocks and everybody dies, however wow, this bag of Dunkin’ Donuts Snackin’ Bacon tastes wonderful. Or: It’s all bollocks and everybody dies, so why don’t I assist this aged individual along with her buying? Use it, this flame of disgust, to refine your language!
Relating to bands, I’ve one phrase for you: Godflesh. (Cue sound of Godflesh followers throughout America falling to their knees in grateful assent.) It’s all there. The sweetness, the horror, the low finish that purges your bowels, the guitar tone that scrapes the plaque out of your coronary heart. Begin with Hymns.
Eager to be sedated,
James
Pricey James,
What are some nice films which have come out this yr?
Pricey Reader,
The final nice film I noticed was Friendship. Profoundly awkward individual (Tim Robinson) is absorbed at dizzying pace into charmed pal circle of easy bro (Paul Rudd) after which—much more abruptly—rejected. At which level he shouts, in despair, “You made me really feel too free! You accepted me too rapidly!” Genius.
Toes up within the again row,
James
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