Kody Brown Admits He As soon as Thought of ‘Strolling Away’ from Robyn

The downsides to plural marriage took heart stage on Sister Wives‘ newest episode.

Valentine’s Day was in full swing on Sunday, April 27 episode of the hit TLC sequence. And naturally, Brown members of the family Kody Brown, Meri Brown, Janelle Brown, Christine Brown and Robyn Brown have been in reflection mode.

Kody, for one, had an attention-grabbing outlook on marriage after enduring three divorces in a 14-month interval. “My church is not a cult. It is arduous to get into a simple to get out of, however marriage is its personal cult. I do not need to disparage marriage, however it’s simple to get into and it’s arduous to get out of,” the 56-year-old instructed the cameras.

Later, Kody was proven taking Robyn, 46, to a Valentine’s Day dinner, the place she requested him how he felt about now not being a polygamist. Kody instructed Robyn he felt as if he’d been “slapped by polygamy.”

“It is arduous to not be bitter about the truth that I purchased off on it and did it as a result of ultimately, within the final moments of it, it felt horrible,” he mentioned. “I am like, actually bitter generally.”

After Robyn requested if he was “lacking what it was earlier than” the demise occurred, Kody mentioned that it was a “loaded” query.

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“I do not need to be flippant with my reply as a result of we have been dedicated to this, however I am not inquisitive about plural marriage anymore,” he then defined to the cameras. “I do not need to pursue one other lady as a result of I do not need that headache, the questions, the struggles, the surprise about belief. I am not in that area.”

Kody then instructed Robyn that he “cannot deny” that his kids are a “blessing” that is come out of plural marriage, however he is “utterly discouraged by the concept that folks really feel obligated to do what we did.” In the meantime, Robyn mentioned she’s been “heartbroken by all of this and attempting to make sense of it.”

Nevertheless, she later instructed the cameras individually that she’s now “very terrified of plural marriage” due to “what has occurred” to her household, including that “there’s plenty of like trauma there.”

Regardless of Kody’s preliminary challenges navigating life as a monogamous man after residing as a polygamist for many years, he confidently instructed Robyn he feels “at peace” with the place they now are as a pair. But, that wasn’t all the time the case for him.

“As a result of I have been in plural marriage for thus lengthy and it was a sole focus of marriage for me, after we failed at it, I used to be sabotaging myself,” he defined. “There have been days unfair to Robyn that I considered simply strolling away from our relationship, too. And that was simply because I used to be so damaged, I turned self-destructive.”

Trying again on the methods he tried to sabotage his relationship with Robyn, Kody really apologized to her “for the darkish area I went by way of and the way it harmed you as a result of it wasn’t honest to you.”

“As a result of I used to be offended, you are withdrawing from me. And since you have been withdrawing from me, I used to be experiencing not simply the anger from the rejection and the anger from the failure of our failures in plural marriage and all the things that I used to be experiencing there, it was inflicting me to actually have unhealthy ideas about us.”

At a unique level within the episode, Robyn shared what she felt was one thing that wasn’t useful to her marriage.

“This was one thing that [Kody, Meri, Janelle and Christine] determined earlier than I even got here within the household to not present affection in entrance of one another. I all the time noticed it as a mistake,” she recalled. “I feel it made Kody really feel alone, and I feel it made every of us wives really feel type of alone.”

Robyn famous that affection “brings consolation to the couple,” including, “It makes the couple really feel type of secure and safe. And in plural marriage, there’s plenty of insecurity simply because there’s a lot sharing.”

“It will have made every spouse really feel safer and extra snug if Kody would have been in a position to present affection or we might have been in a position to present affection to him,” she concluded.

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Sister Wives airs Sunday at 10 p.m. ET on TLC.